Help wanted please

[Batman]

Glad to know that things are going well. Something else that is just as important as the spanking in a real situation is the lecture regarding the behavior. In my experience, a good lecture will have a girl in tears before the spanking even starts. That is what really sets the tone and makes the spanking something that is to punish and forgive a misdeed versus something done because both parties enjoy it.

[Jess]

It's a work in progress but I am so pleased that I plucked up the courage to start the conversation albeit by email.

Arianna - I look forward to chat again too

[BlackVelvet007]

Sounds like you two are off to a great start. Steve's always welcome to come join us here, and we look forward to progress updates.

[Jess]

Thanks

Not sure I'll be able to get Steve to join here as he's not into forums or chat rooms on any topic, but I'll let him know there are people here ready to answer any questions he has - even if I have to ask for him

Hi both,
Punishments may be made more realistic if time is taken to create the correct atmosphere first. A ‘sentence’ could usefully be declared some time previously, maybe even a couple of days in advance to allow time for reflection and apprehension to play their part.
One cannot understate the importance of a formal reading of the ‘riot act’ before punishment takes place, and a written statement comprising the infraction and the judicial punishment deserved would add an element of gravity to dispel fits of the giggles which threaten to ruin the desired atmosphere.
Acting to the instructions of another, maybe even an online and unseen mentor, has often been successful as both parties are free to follow orders releasing both from pressures that could otherwise affect realistic play.
Just a few thoughts that might be of use,
Above all have fun and prosper
Handygent

[Jess]

Thanks for the ideas