I Don't Want To!!

[Adelina]

First, to Kaylex:
That would perhaps be true if it's a play context. I think the question is more relevant to discipline situations. Say, a sub comes home with a speeding ticket feeling that dread, and then nothing happens cuz he's not in the mood to enforce a rule about reckless driving.

As someone who's worked in behavioral management (among other tasks) for nearly 12 years, I can attest that consistency is vital to achieving a positive result.

This is why I have a sort of awe of Doms who live with their subs... it's really a fulltime, 24/7 commitment, and you have to be really vested in it to do it right. It's also the reason why I wouldn't be a good candidate for that type of relationship, because my mental space can be so variable that I wouldn't respond consistently. BV tried to call me on something once when I was in the wrong space and I had a frickin panic attack. It wasn't pretty.

I suppose if the Dom is really in charge, then he could have the authority to also say that he chooses when to address a problem. Perhaps a compromise could be to say he can't do it now, but we'll talk Tomorrow, or in two days' time at noon, something like that. Give both parties time to adjust and get into the right frame of mind.