How submissive is submissive?

[EricaScott]

There are many definitions and degrees of submission, Liz. At the risk of taking labels too seriously, I adamantly refer to myself as "a bottom, NOT a submissive." That is not to say I can't be submissive, but that is not my natural state of being.

To me, submission is something that is earned with trust and caring, not demanded. I am naturally rebellious and feisty, and I'd rather challenge a top than obey him. But if he has the patience (and the sense of humor) to deal with me in the right way, I can find myself in a much softer and compliant place.

You're correct in saying there really is no "wrong." There's only opinions and personal preferences. Whatever works for you is what's right for you. -- Erica