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04-28-2007, 12:34 PM
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Oh my dear, dear Rangerboy.
Some of this sounds like its coming directly to me, because it 100% similar to what we discuss in our evreryday conversation. And I'm sure that some or this was spurred on by our talk yesterday. He is most defianlty very right. As my friend, Rangerboy and I have disscussed every asspect of saftey when it comes to play. I'm new, and several people have taken me under their wing, so to say. Never, ever in a play situation do you EVER EVER give away your safeword. Even if you really trust the person you're playing with. Giving up your safeword is putting you out of 'control' of the situation. And that is not a good thing to do, even with a Top that you trust, because sometimes things trigger emotioal things and Top's can't read minds. And always, always have a safe call. I usually have two or three when I play with people. They need to know where you're going, who you're going to be with, and you need to call them when you get there, once during the meeting, and once when you leave. I'm sure you've all heard this, but I'm only restating the obvious. I love the scene, and the people in it. I would not like any of my friends to get hurt by some sick, spanko, pervert. Rangerboy, Kaylex, and a few others know that I would go postal and kill the guy if they ever hurt any of my friends. But yes... I just wanted to go on with his 'rant.' Its a very important topic and does need adressing. Love you guys! Emmy
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04-29-2007, 12:00 AM
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ive had a couple of not so good experiences that have made me the safety advocate that i am for this lifestyle today. A few years ago after my divorce i kinda went a lil' buck wild running off an playing with ppl id met offa the internet. i didnt follow any of the safety rules or advice because i was simply just very naive an immature. i had two meetings that went rather bad an scared me onto the straight and narrow. The first i ended up running off an meeting a guy i had chatted with online for about 2 wks in a town over an hour away from where i live. i hadnt told anyone where i was going. to make a long story short when i made my exit an hour into our meeting that was just all wrong from the beginning he followed me for a long time. i tried everything i could think of to lose him but he was very persistent. i ended up bein able to lose him in some heavy traffic and made it back home only to find an inbox full of mean/nasty emails from him. That went on for months before he finally gave up an moved on. The second was kinda the same beginning i ran off to meet a guy id chatted with for a couple of weeks out in the middle of nowhere. Again i hadnt told anyone about it. To make another long story short i ended up with a belt wrapped around my neck rather tightly. Again with alot of luck i made it out of the situation and im alive an well today and able to witness to others about how important it is to take every step possible to make sure they are doing what it takes to be safe.
emily
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04-29-2007, 01:21 AM
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If there is ANYONE on this forum who ever has a question about whether or not to meet someone and how to do so, please drop me a private message and I'll do my best to talk you through how to do it. I've seen and heard lots of stories through the years.
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04-29-2007, 06:42 PM
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Wow.. that was a special cigar there Rangerboy. I've been lucky about those I've met online and then met in person have been great. Whew.. but I know.. I need to be careful since I'm the sort that is very trusting and naive. Just ask any of my close friends.. but anyway... I'll be meeting someone very special at the BU party weekend and I'm looking forward to it.
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04-30-2007, 01:38 AM
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Dear Rangerboy,
Did Kaylex give you my cigars?!!
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04-30-2007, 06:15 AM
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Cigars
Okay everyone...what is deal with the cigar? Are you guys implying that I was smoking pot????? Haaaaa....not since high school....... It was a cigar...you buy them at the cigar store....the Surgeon General tells you not to smoke them. I ignore the Surgeon General.
 I have about one a week...I enjoy them...... You guys are crazy...that's why I love you all so much.  rangerboy
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05-01-2007, 09:13 PM
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Great thread Rangerboy! I will reserve comment about your cigar, <wink> <wink>. lol.
 I also wanted to say that this is certainly not just for F bottoms out there. Right after my first party I felt 10 feet tall and bullet proof and rushed out to meet someone for play after a very short period of internet chat. She threw aside many of my limits we had discussed before hand. She actually kinda ambushed me as I walked in the door (which I know now was planned) and jumped right into play with out any negoation. Still being a 10 foot tall bullet proof male, not to mentioned in over my head(just did not realize it at the time) I just went with it. No negoation = no safe word. What could happen? right. Of course I was an hour from home and NO ONE knew where I was. No safe call + No Safe word = 0 brains on my part! While I escaped mostly unharmed, it was less than a pleasant play experience and was a serious wake up call and could have gone REALLY bad. But lesson learned albeit the hard way. I had heard stories about what could happen, but like most victims I just thought it would never happen to me. Puck
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