Kaylex and Emmy Show: Part Dos.

OK...here we go. Per usual, I will begin with the disclaimer that this is my experience only.

Have you ever found that the most fulfilling times in your life are when you are living outside of yourself and doing for others? The times you are most at ease with the world is when you aren't focused on your own problems but helping someone else....be it volunteering, mentoring, teaching....have you ever felt that way?

Now I'm not going to try to associate Topping with some kind of Mother Teresa level of love and compassion but when a Bottom submits to you....allows you to fulfill their need, send them to a space or place where they want to be...that degree of trust....for me its fulfilling.

In a disciplinary role, even then, the Bottom has consented to non-sonsensuality....that is tremendous trust that they have placed on you to be fair, to be firm, and not to harm them physically or mentally....you have to be "in-charge" and with great power goes great responsibility......and I get a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction in a job well done.

So is there a "Top Space" like Bottoms get to "Bottom Space"....well no, I've never experienced it. But sending a Bottom to that space gives me a sense of fulfillment and I'm grateful that I was able to help someone go where they wanted to go.

One guys's point of view.

rb

(Now this is in the context of fun and discipline.....in the erotic role...and that's ONLY with my wife.....she loves to feel my hand on her bottom and boy, what a gorgeous behind that woman has.....no more to be said on the topic )

[kaylex]

You all deserve a red star!

RB nice way to start this new topic. I wanted to make one more disclaimer about what kind of Top space we are NOT talking about.

We are NOT talking about falling asleep while you are spanking some one!

And if said event happens again the spanker will be cut off from further play

Ok Tops keeping posting, inquiring bottoms want to know!
Kaylex

[paully62]

Kaylex: That is a very fair addition to the rules however, it might be noteworthy to add one more. IF you are going to knock on someones door at 3:30 a.m. and expect a little play, you might be a touch less stoic whereas to keep spanker awake.

[kaylex]

Paully i did not ask for comments! And FYI folks the was All-State so late night play sessions are a given...

Now for the rest of you TOPS.... ANSWER THE QUESTION!!! We all know you get some addictive feeling out of spanking otherwise you wouldn't crave it so much. So go go go... write on...times a'wasting! Don't make me call on people!

Kaylex

[BlackVelvet007]

YES there is such a thing as "top space". It's hard to explain, but when you're engrossed in a scene, much in the same way that endorphins kick in with the spankee, the top enters a euphoric state. You have to be careful not to let it affect your skill as you continue spanking, but it's a true headspace being entered.

[emily]

i think the Tops are askeered of this question.. c'mon boys an girls show us Your vulnerable side

[kaylex]

Alright folks! Since the tops seem not to respond when asked with the exception of BV and RB... nice Job guys. Let's open the floor to everyone.

Our special guest Carla helped out with this question today. It's on communication. At a party when playing with various tops and bottoms (and no we are not talking about your wardrobe changes... although i'm the first to tell you that is SUPER fun) How do you expect the person you're playing with to communicate to you...Verbally (asking, telling, code words), actions, both, neither?

We know we are all different and some people will post as if to say "duh?" but I'm certain we'll have people all over the map on this one. So POST ON!!!!

Waiting to hear,
Kaylex

[Gary D.]

Originally Posted by kaylex

Alright folks! Since the tops seem not to respond when asked with the exception of BV and RB... nice Job guys. Let's open the floor to everyone.

We know we are all different and some people will post as if to say "duh?" but I'm certain we'll have people all over the map on this one. So POST ON!!!!

Waiting to hear,
Kaylex

Let me start this one off with a great big "duh"....( you're welcome Kaylex)
Seriously though all of the actions mentioned are preferred / desired in some form or another or all combined in some cases. As a Top it is very desirable and necessary to have some form of communication from the Bottom. Since everyone is different the communication can come in different forms therefore it is most important to "learn" ( be familiar with or be able to read) the person you are playing with. For first time plays between a couple, talk first and get some basics established. As for communicating while play is in progress, I would always choose/prefer a combination of both verbal and actions communique, but knowing this is not possible with each and every individual I try to focus on their individual ways of communicating.

Gary D.