Should I just give up this lifestyle?

Southern Sweetie,

I am new here and this is my first attempt at joining in but I feel for ya!

I am the one who introduced my husband into spanking and at first he was very reluctant. I have to say we have been at it for about 6-7 years now and it still isn't where I want it but I take what I can get. Since there are kids in the house we rarely ever spoke of it openly but communicated through email a lot. I would send him links and stories and then sometimes I would just write what I was feeling and what I needed. I knew when I wrote it he may or may not take the inititive after that but I did my part. I would encourage him and even go as far to ask him and sometimes even beg in a tasteful manner.

I think when he saw that movie the secretary he realize it wasn't just a facination for me but more of a need. That is when things turned around for us more. Maybe you should tell your husband you understand his feelings because really you do right...you want him to do something he isn't accustomed to do just like you feel like he is wanting you to be something you are not. He is trying and we all say things in the heat of anger that we later regret.

If it were me...I would let things cool down a couple of days then I would write a letter to my husband explain you needs and ASK his needs. Maybe his needs are not being met and he is afraid to ask. Set a date...no kids around and just say look I told you what I needed and I want to know what you need from me. Talk about it...don't give up though.

That seems to work for us when I start to feel like I am not getting the attention I desire. I hope that helps.

happilyspanked
(when I get it)