How Spanking Affected You

[impishbrat]

I hope my childhood spankings did not contribute to my interest in adulthood. I have nothing but sick feelings when I remember them....so I try not to remember them. On the other hand, I do remember being very interested in fellow troublemakers' spankings during my childhood!

[lil_dixiedarling]

I think the few spankings i got growing up did contribute somewhat...almost like the opening tease leaving me searching for more.

I was never actually spanked at home, but got my fair share of the paddle in 8th grade. The first time it happened i was shocked and the feeling lasted forever it seemed. Of course i became a bit of a junkie and began to push buttons just to hear the phrase "out in the hall young lady"...imagine that. That was the last time i was spanked though until about 2 years ago...thankfully i hope to never go that long without again.

Sherie

[jackie seven]

I have never been spanked in my entire life. And I've have never had any desire to be. All of my fascination with this fetish has revolved around girls/women being spanked. I have always had a strong appreciation for the female buttocks and suspect my interest in spanking was borne out of that to some degree.

Having developed this interest very early in life, I didn't understand it for a long time. I felt weird, guilty and somewhat dirty about this for the longest time. I was probably in my early 20s before I ever suspected there might be other people who shared this fantasy, and even then, I thought it was a very small percentage. It was many years later before I realized that it was quite a higher number of people who were into spanking and began to feel less weird about the whole thing.

I think that by feeling like that for so long has helped make me more tolerable and less judgmental of alternate lifestyles, etc. that I might not have been so willing to accept otherwise.

[RG_]

J7's post points out an opinion of mine, and that is that most of us are "hardwired" to be kinked with spanking, in some way. J7 is on one end of the spectrum, those that were never spanked. There are plenty just like him living down there on that end. On the other end are folks who also weren't spanked. They were abused. Mistreated. Emotionally harmed. Yet, for reasons unknown, they too like spanking. There are those who were raised by loving, constructive great parents. They, too, like it. And the list goes on.

In my own opinion, while I think that our experiences can shape what direction our kink takes, I think that for 98% plus of us, the kink was gonna there there in any case.

[spanked~amber]

Well said RG. I absolutlely hated discipline when I was a child. Yet when someone was taken out in the hall for a paddling, I was all ears and would paint a mental image in my mind of what was taking place. Tone plays a huge part of what floats my boat during a spanking. In my adult life there is no worry of my spanker yelling or being obnoxious. That's a plus.

[RG_]

Originally Posted by spanked~amber

Yet when someone was taken out in the hall for a paddling, I was all ears and would paint a mental image in my mind of what was taking place.

Yep, the school thing did me in, too, Amber. When one happened and another kid was getting it not only did it capture my whole attention (I even stayed in at recess once to watch a kid get it), but it stayed on my mind the rest of the day.

As I noted in my previous post on this thread, I think that while the kink is inborn for the great majority, that it can be shaped by experiences. I have no doubt whatsoever that my going to a school that prolificly used the paddle set the direction for where my kink was focused.

[BlackVelvet007]

Ditto here. No matter how noisy it was in that classroom, when a kid was taken outside for a paddling, every other kid in the room just got quiet and listened for the swats. It told me I wasn't alone, that there were others like me.

[lil_babygirl]

I thought this thread was rather interesting. I have been spanked as a child by my mother, only mine were of the abuse type. I guess in growing up I've always been the submissive sort. I've always been curious about power exchange.. spankings of a more gentle nature..that sort of thing. I used to smart off to my friends to get them to just give a swift pop on the behind. I remember my 16th birthday and got held down for birthday spankings. I never giggled so hard in my life. I do remember a time in school that I knew I deserved one (for cheating on a test) but managed to cry my way out of a spanking in Junior High. Whew!
It was kinda cool to hear the boys in High school get it though. I was in Agriculture class and if the teacher caught the boys dipping snuff in class they would be taken out in the shop class and given a couple of swats with a holey paddle. All of us would be listening at the door and run like crazy to get back to our seats when we heard them coming back. Getting spanked now as an adult seems to play a different role, it's like a way of dealing with stress and letting the hair down with the play. As for discipline and sort, it helps keep the mind on track without having to do something drastic or ending up in jail. I guess that's my intake on spanking and how it affects me. I personally think it is a good thing with the right person that cares and to have great trust in them not to harm you phyically or mentally.

[liz]

I know this is an old thread, but i have been reading the archives. And no thread is dead if you have a new member! :-)
I have always wondered if I got turned on to spanking when I was 15 and spanked by my dad. This had not happened for a very long time (getting spanked). And I recall that it was somehow different, and though I didn't like it at the time, I was somehow turned on by it. It might have been my age, I don't know. I was also turned on afterwards, which I didn't recall before. So in my case, I don't think I was hard wired in some way.

--liz

[garyspk]

Originally Posted by jackie seven

I have never been spanked in my entire life. And I've have never had any desire to be. All of my fascination with this fetish has revolved around girls/women being spanked. I have always had a strong appreciation for the female buttocks and suspect my interest in spanking was borne out of that to some degree.

Having developed this interest very early in life, I didn't understand it for a long time. I felt weird, guilty and somewhat dirty about this for the longest time. I was probably in my early 20s before I ever suspected there might be other people who shared this fantasy, and even then, I thought it was a very small percentage. It was many years later before I realized that it was quite a higher number of people who were into spanking and began to feel less weird about the whole thing.

I think that by feeling like that for so long has helped make me more tolerable and less judgmental of alternate lifestyles, etc. that I might not have been so willing to accept otherwise.

My interest in spanking developed from having a great interest in the female bottom as well. So I'm with J7 on this.

And I also agree with RG that we are hard-wired and there's not much we can do about that. It certainly wasn't a "choice" for me to have this kink.

Although I do know some people who have experimented and found they like it. So that's certainly possible. But overall, yep....it's hard-wired in.