Sticks and Stones...

[RG_]

Originally Posted by katy_spankwish

This is probably not a politcally correct response but I think it is a gender issue.

As a general statement, I agree, katy. I would also note that when playing, not real discipline, some guys just have a gift for words, and the one that comes to mind is Richard Windsor/Houndog. He has the gift of presentation. I'm sure that his British accent contributes to that. There's another that I know, the hubby of a mutual friend of ours, who has probably the biggest gift of words from a spontaneity standpoint that I've heard. The guy is funny and a barrel of laughs to listen to. Both are very different in style, and yet both are memorable in their use of words.

All this spoken from a third party observer's standpoint, of course. I'm sure that the chemistry is different if you're on the recipient side of the issue.

[Gary D.]

The importance of words and how they are structured / delivered cannot be under stressed.........especially in discipline. I think this topic ties in well with the previous one about crying. How many people have unsuccessfully tried to bring about crying with only an increase in the intensity or sheer number of spanks, when a few well delivered words combined with the "regular amount" of spanking would have done the trick? Words are also a great addition, as well as a neccessity, to a very intense / satisfying role-play scenario.

Gary D.

[lil_dixiedarling]

I have to say that words are the most important part of any spanking for me. I have been blessed/cursed with a decent pain tolerance so esp in a discipline type setting the words of the moment are near the only outlet to release the emotions needed to rid myself of guilt and wrong doing. I have literally been spanked hard for hours without a tear or barely a sound and never gotten over that feeling because there were not the words to go with the swats....however, one simple lecture of how i've overstepped and such has brought me to complete body shaking tears.

Sherie

[Garnet]

Words are important to me, at least in fantasizing. The right words can set a whole scene in one's mind, and especially in real life; just as the "wrong" words can put someone completely out of the mood (and not just in a spanking scenario). Just my two cents for what they're worth. I'm new here and inexperienced with the real thing, but have thought and fantasized about this as long as I can remember. (Since I'm in my late 50s, that's a long time. Oh, and just a little bit more info...I'm from Texas.)

[RG_]

Welcome to MSF, Garnet!