Rubbing after a Spanking

[sarah thorne]

You guys....so straight and to the point! How did ya'll answer all those Toppy questions with just one or two lines?

I am gonna delve a bit deeper than the surface question, as a woman should. Fell free to help me dig, or offer opinions or observations on what I say!

As I have mentioned on the thread about crying, I try and maintain my composure at all costs in nearly all situations. One of my biggest issues is allowing someone to see that they have affected me, either positively or negatively, because in some weird way deep down, I feel it gives them some kind of 'power' to know how deeply they are able to hurt me (emotionally) if they so choose. I can be deeply touched by something and outwardly, not show it.

Sooooo.....how does this relate to rubbing? Well, like crying, rubbing is an actual physical acknowledgement of how much the spanking affected me. I absolutely will not rub my own bottom.

As a matter of fact (and RG can attest to this), the first few times RG spanked me, altho he got slight reaction out of me during the spanking itself, afterwards I simply pulled up my pants, would not make eye contact, and acted as if it never happened!

This happened even during discipline, which RG saw as a kind of defiance. It was. It was my way of still maintaining that last bit of control over the situation. So he took that away from me and made me rub after discipline one time. I hated it, as it forced me to acknowledge what had just happened and that it had, indeed, hurt.

Any thoughts on his reasoning? Does any other bottom not rub for the same reason?

sarah

[RG_]

You know my answers, of course, but then you're not really wanting me to answer this for you, are you?

Originally Posted by sarah thorne

For Tops (you get quite a few questions )--- do you rub after giving a spanking and, if so, what is your reason for doing so?

After play, yes. After discipline, no.

Why? Well, for starters, I like to! I do love so love bottoms (the person, too, but I'm speaking of the part of the anatomy), so won't usually pass up a chance to rub one. But also because you often demand (can subs "demand"?) that I do so when you're getting quite a few licks and I have paused for a moment. And often on my own without being asked, both for your pleasure, and to help you take more of what's coming.

Originally Posted by sarah thorne

Do you rub after discipline as well as play?

Ooops, already answered that. Nope! When you screw up, you're on your own, kiddo.

Originally Posted by sarah thorne

Does it have to be someone with whom you are intimate to do it, or not?

The basic answer to that question is yes, because I would never presume to touch a woman's bottom who is not my significant other in that way without her invitation. That being said, I've got one very close friend (and yours, too) who has made that request a time or two and so I do with her.

Originally Posted by sarah thorne

Do you like to see your bottom rub her own butt after a spanking?

Is water wet? Is the sky high? Is the Pope Catholic?

[RG_]

Originally Posted by sarah thorne

So he took that away from me and made me rub after discipline one time. I hated it, as it forced me to acknowledge what had just happened and that it had, indeed, hurt.

Made her rub a few more times, too, when it wasn't discipline. Took a pic one time, just so that she could remember it, too. > : )

Maybe I ought to post it.

[spanked~amber]

Originally Posted by RG_

Made her rub a few more times, too, when it wasn't discipline. Took a pic one time, just so that she could remember it, too. > : )

Maybe I ought to post it.

Oh RG, I TRIPLE DOG DARE YA!

Sorry Sarah, I couldn't refrain myself.

[RG_]

Ah, the Triple Dog Dare!

You just skipped ALL of the levels, didn't you?!

Sigh.

[BlackVelvet007]

So don't just stand there, RG. POST it Please.

You gotta love community spirit

[sarah thorne]

Well, I have to say that I found one and got it all cropped and ready when RG walked in and said, "That's the one you wanna use??"

I said, "Yeah, I like this one." (It was taken about 2 1/2 years ago)

He said, "I thought we had a pic where you were rubbing with your pants on!"



Guess RG won't be bowing down to the triple dog dare after all. He is all protective of my bare bottom being shown online and all, y'know!

So..... to amber

sarah

[spanked~amber]

Ahhhhhhhhh. I see how it is. Hmmmmmmph.Well looks like in this case the only solution would be to get the camera, an implement, and get to crackin'.... er ehem... I meant smackin' tee hee.

[lil_dixiedarling]

Rubbing isnt usually a big issue for me. I won't usually deny a Top that does enjoy rubbing my bottom..that is if it is someone close enough to me to trust that person.
I know for me the Tops that do play with me and know my bottom enough know of certain spots on it that they try to keep an eye on and the rubbing they use is more so for a safety check for knotting and such rather than rubbing out pain and such.

I have never really been one to rub my bottom myself...never really did give it much thought either as to why. I am intriqued with the way Sarah answered though and has me thinking if that is subconsciously what is going on in my head as well - i've been called bullheaded and stubborn on more than one occassion when i can't find it in myself to just let the tears and emotions flow because that lets the other person "win" in my mind as well. Just never connected the rubbing thing to it until now - Thanks Sarah.

[katy_spankwish]

I don't usually rub for a couple of reasons 1. It just isn't that easy to reach. 2. It isn't the same as when the Top does (thank goodness) and 3. it doesn't really help me that much.

I have found lately I rub abit more than I used. Not really sure why.

The other thing I have never done is a "spankee" dance.