spanking or abuse

[Kimmy]

I really don't see using implements or hard spankings, as long as it is between consenting adults, is assault or abuse of any kind. We all have safe words, or should have, to use in case things get too intense.

Each one of us has our own limits and likes. Some people like the harder, more intense feel of different implements. Each one has its own feel, leather, wood, rubber, plastic. Some are more thuddy or stingy or warming. My personal preference is leather.

I don't think that we have the right to judge what someone else enjoys except as a personal preference.

Kimmy

[spanko81]

Hell, I'd find it cruel and abusive if my spanker DIDN'T use implements on me!! Getting only hand spankings would be a HUGE tease for me and I would end up feeling completely unfulfilled...

Like others have said, it comes down to consent.....

And hell, getting what you want! Communication is key...

[dominant10]

As for me the severest the better. But I am not in any case a sadist. I love especially canes a paddles. And bruised bottom is so wonderful. Everything is more complicated as we often think. The more pain the more endorphines and that make the spanking so amazing. But you must stand such a pain. It depends much on dom and sub also. Trust in each other is the most important.
And situation also. Mood in both sides do such things.