Are we open minded???

[Batman]

I think you bring up a very valid point here, Mike. We probably are fairly open-minded and quite willing to share our opinions with others who would like to learn about what we do and how we live.

To address the part about the people who think we're sick and twisted, I can offer some personal experiences there as well. One of my very close friends saw the letters TTWD and asked me what it meant. Trying to play it off, I told her it meant "This Thing We Do". She's such a curious person that she pulled more details from me. So, I told her about spanking and how I met my fiancee through a spanking personals site.

She immediately opened a profile just to see the profile I had as well as my fiancee's. Her boyfriend immediately was disgusted. It didn't alter the friendship level, but, he just didn't want to hear about it. From his point of view, it was wrong to hurt someone you love. The fact my fiancee enjoys being spanked was irrelevant.

My female friend, however, was even more curious and actually played with us briefly. She decided it wasn't for her, but, she is very open about what we do. I can talk to her about it anytime. So, I guess the vanillas are just like us in that respect. They are going to have different degrees of acceptance towards what we do.

[kaylex]

Mike and Batman,
The reason you spoke of is one of the main reasons this forum exsists. Usually we don't have issues with intolerance or ugliness. Lately there has been some one who has posted some not so nice things and the moderator (the great and powerful and ultra-tolerant Gary) has addressed this.

The only other time you will have seen some ugliness is with a said "seal incident" which we are no longer discussing.... and that's all I'm gonna say about that. (wow am I learning to hold my tongue or what?!)

Have fun here. It's a great group of people and if you have ANY problems let Garyspk know, he's here to keep this a safe and fun place! Oh and check out www.amateurspankings.com it's one of the things that keeps us going!

Kaylex

[garyspk]

Originally Posted by kaylex

Have fun here. It's a great group of people and if you have ANY problems let Garyspk know, he's here to keep this a safe and fun place! Oh and check out www.amateurspankings.com it's one of the things that keeps us going!

Kaylex

Thanks for the plug, Kaylex. Safe & Fun R Us!

[garyspk]

Originally Posted by Batman

She immediately opened a profile just to see the profile I had as well as my fiancee's. Her boyfriend immediately was disgusted. It didn't alter the friendship level, but, he just didn't want to hear about it. From his point of view, it was wrong to hurt someone you love. The fact my fiancee enjoys being spanked was irrelevant.

My female friend, however, was even more curious and actually played with us briefly. She decided it wasn't for her, but, she is very open about what we do. I can talk to her about it anytime. So, I guess the vanillas are just like us in that respect. They are going to have different degrees of acceptance towards what we do.

Through the years of doing AmateurSpankings, I've noticed just dealing with the models for instance, that females who are unfamiliar with the fetish are much more open and accepting of it than males are. That's kind of a "generality," but overall it's true.

Guys who don't "get" the spanking fetish are very vocal about what sickos we are and how disturbed we are. I've had boyfriends of our models flip out and not allow their girlfriends to participate any more because of that. As you can imagine, that makes me crazy. The girls though are much more accepting and usually come around to the point of at least accepting the fetish and try to understand more about it.

[Kate]

Originally Posted by garyspk

Through the years of doing AmateurSpankings, I've noticed just dealing with the models for instance, that females who are unfamiliar with the fetish are much more open and accepting of it than males are. That's kind of a "generality," but overall it's true.

Guys who don't "get" the spanking fetish are very vocal about what sickos we are and how disturbed we are. I've had boyfriends of our models flip out and not allow their girlfriends to participate any more because of that. As you can imagine, that makes me crazy. The girls though are much more accepting and usually come around to the point of at least accepting the fetish and try to understand more about it.

It's like wanting to see a guy and telling him that I like to be spanked. They don't or won't get it unless they are already in the scene. (I don't like that word, but can't think of another).

Trying to explain to them that being spanked is a really powerful form of foreplay for lme--submissive fantasies, pretending this is being done to me against my will. That it's a game and it's fun and that's usually the last I hear from them, or if we do get together what I want never gets fulfilled.

Men are definitely less open minded about this. Most aren't willing to try, at least from where I've been. I've been forced to find partners in ALT because there are not much in the way of Spanking Clubs in Seattle and I am really picky about my partners anyway.

Just my two cents, that's all