Kaylex and Emmy Show: Part Dos.

[Thomas_III]

I think that people taking being "outed" too seriously, and are hurting the kink indirectly by doing so. Only by being open about our interests will the public at large even learn to accept what we do as a safe and sane activity. By hiding in the closets and dark corners, we exile ourselves to those recesses and out of the public's eye, thinking we're safe. However, hiding is what makes us seem like freaks, and that's the way that the world is going to view us.

This was the same for the homosexual community. Years ago, people would hide their sexuality for fear of being "outed" and have their lives ruined. Well, some homosexuals started to be more outspoken and in the public's eye. As people started to see that they were normal people, with just a different sexual perspective, they became accepted. Now, a person doesn't have to fear repercussions of revealing their sexuality. That progress wouldn't have come about if homosexuals continued to lurk in the shadows.

So, what makes us any different? Why must we put up a facade to those closest to us for fear of how they'll react? If homosexuality can be proclaimed without being reviled automatically, then why not spanking and other aspects of BDSM? Education is the first step to acceptance, and we can't educate the masses by wearing a mask. I, for one, am proud of my interests, and choose to not hide my true self from anyone. It will be those that are open about our kink, like myself, that will eventually earn acceptance for spankos.

If you're not a part of the solution, then you're part of the problem.

[paully62]

Nobody in my family knows anything. My two daughters are going crazy trying to figure out why I am going to Texas all the time. I have 2 co-workers who know but dont REALLY understand the interest. Sometimes it would be nice to get in front of everyone I know and say look......but in a vanilla world...well we all know the result. Anyway, I truly feel almost everybody has something that they think about and wouldnt tell anyone. I am grateful that there are many friends, both new and old here to share with.

[lil_babygirl]

I have to say that I am very fortunate of not having to explain to my parents as they are both deceased. However, I'm lucky enough that my godfather (was best friends with my dad since I was age 5) knows of my kinks and orientation and is ok with it.

[lil_dixiedarling]

Originally Posted by Gary D.

Fortunately I have my "spanking family" and can talk freely with them

Gary D.

And we love talking freely with You....aren't we such a wonderful disfunctional family?

[nightowl]

Originally Posted by lil_dixiedarling

And we love talking freely with You....aren't we such a wonderful disfunctional family?

I agree we are a wonderfully dysfunctional family indeed and I love it. I tell my "spanko" friends more about my life, desires, dreams, fears than any vanilla friend I've EVER had. I guess it's because we are so open about something so private as our need to be spanked/give spankings, that other subjects just arent' taboo, everything is fair game.

The only family member who knows is my 22 year old daughter....she didn't understand how it could turn me on, or my need for disicipline, but since she has her own kinks, she deals with it (and the fact that I live in a nudsit community). I would never consider telling any other family member.

I only a 2 friends who know and one of them has joined our local group here in tampa...so wierd to have a friend/co-worker who is into the scene and comes to parties with me.....

[kaylex]

Let me expound!

Most of you know I LOVE to play! For many, many, many different reasons and depending on the reason I'm playing it changes what kind of communication I want.

So If I'm Pure playing... Let's talk! Let's joke and Brat and talk about what things feel like and what effect there having or not having. Let's talk about our pasts and the stories about different toys and times.

If it's roleplay let's talk first and then PLAY!!! I don't like stopping a scene to talk.

If it's Discipline... I want to be talked to and I will answer questions but I will probably not give you much else. I've never cried, I don't usually yell out or give much reaction beyond looking miserable and sorry.

If it's stress relief.......HUSH!!!! I don't want to talk to you, I don't want to think about what you're saying. I want to slip into subspace bliss...SILENTLY! The only exception to this would be if this is after a really hard weekend of play then there needs to be a bit more communication as to what the spanking needs to feel like to help get me to that place.

OK so that's me, I may be just a tad bit stoic(?)...What about YOU?

Kaylex

[paully62]

Before setting out on spanking play, I will talk to the young lady as much as possible before hand. Although my tenure in this area is young, my love for it goes more than 30 years. I really strive to find out exactly what she is expecting from the experience and try to mold it to my own wants and needs. It has been quite curious for me to see just how different the various young ladies are in their wants. Some want true discipline where some would never accept any from of correction. Some cant take that much whereas some you can seem to spank for hours with little reaction. I find out all I can and try and hit the scene running. I feel most experiences have gone well for both participants. btw...if you are reading this and we have played and you didnt like it...keep it your yourself. ...fragile top ego at stake here

[BlackVelvet007]

I like Kaylex's reply. That works.

For myself, I usually don't say much during a scene. I certainly have no problem engaging in conversation during a scene, but for the most part I'm so focused on spanking that beautiful bottom that I don't really chatter.

In a case of discipline, I'm inclined to scold based on what the discipline is for. That's kind of tricky though because words hit harder than the implement.

Roleplay is completely different. I'll run my mouth the whole scene as part of my character. Especially when I do my "State Trooper" roleplay.

And of course, ALWAYS keep an attentive ear open for safewords.

[dragonbratling]

some of my family know, but i dont worry about. I think if anyone in my family sees me online here, or recognizes me online then i'm not the only one with this fetish.

[emily]

i have those same feelings.. if someone sees me online or ata party then heck they're into it to why stress out about it? that's why i have no problem using my real name "emily" online.

Originally Posted by dragonbratling

some of my family know, but i dont worry about. I think if anyone in my family sees me online here, or recognizes me online then i'm not the only one with this fetish.