How do I get a spanking?

[SpankingHero]

maybe if you piss him off beforehand

[innocent_nympho]

hey guys,

thanks again so much for all the responses! and spankinghero, it's funny you should say that because the only time my bf has ever taking me over the lap and spanked me (not hard or long, but at least semi-seriously) was when i had posted some slutty pictures of myself up on facebook. other than that, it's never happened. i don't think that intentionally pissing off an unwilling spanker is going to ever work in the long run though because eventually, it will just deteriorate the relationship.

and billy_wizz, you make a good point once again, trying to look for any kind of semi-erotic associated play outside the consent of your relationship will inevitably lead to break ups. i know if my bf knew what i was doing, he'd flip over backwards.

ultimately, i guess it comes down to what is more important, fulfilling a tremendous personal need, or sacrificing that need for a functioning relationship.

i'll have to think about that one some more.

[innocent_nympho]

oh, and i guess i have a continuation question for anyone who's willing to take a stab at it: how do i get him to even spank me to that point where it will even be considered a "warm-up" spanking if he's so completely hung up on the idea that it will bruise? i'm talking about a guy who will give me a few light swats and then tell me, oh, this is going to bruise you so much. ridiculous, i know, but i can't get him to go further to even get the opportunity to convince him that it won't happen.

if anyone wants to take a stab at this, i'd really appreciate it.

[Billy Wizz]

Good Luck in getting him to spank you. You clearly feel for the man concerned.

However the fact you are on here suggests spanking is important to you. You also must ask yourself can live your life without being spanked or controlled to some degree or are you always going to be searching for that in your life. You maybe able to get rid of the need to be spanked in the short term but can you do it for years and years?

It might seem I trying to break you up but I really trying to make you think about what you really want.

I have had relationships that have failed because of having a non spanking partner. Now I have one and I feel complete.