Safe, Sane, Consensual are used, of course, within the context of what we are doing. Does that mean those words would be used in the same context in other vanilla situations? Probably not.
To even think of applying the same connotation is actually somewhat dangerous (read truly unsafe), and can be confusing to Tops, as if they don't have enough confusion as it is. I doubt most spanko women want spanko men to read this and get the idea that they can just grab any woman at a party because it's secretly "what they want", then continue subject them to all kinds of S&M activities of which they have no interest in or truly dislike.
So
safe, sane, consensual within the context of you and your partner and what you want/like/desire is vastly different from truly non consensual activity.
I actually thought you made a post somewhat contradictory to the ideas expressed here just a few weeks ago about crossing lines......
No wonder guys get confused.
paddlemebarenyc, you said it perfectly.
sarah
12-15-2007, 08:56 AM
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