She Cries

[Farmgirl]

I too agree that she should have a safeword. I am also spanked erotically (and have been for some 20 years) and in the beginning he gave me a safeword, but I only used it once that I can remember. Back then he was also afraid of hurting me, but in fairness I have to say I never really needed to be taken to tears to achieve sexual arousal. Apparently your girl does; but then we're all different. At any rate my having a safeword and never using it made him feel better about the situation until we got fully tuned in to each other's wants and needs.

It guilt involved? I had a lot of guilt inside me from my childhood, but that got worked out over the early part of our relationship. However, some girls may have a lot deeper sense of guilt, and may actually want the tears, regardless of the pain it may take. I have chatted with a few like that, and I'm like that myself on occasion. When I get emotionally wound up too tightly, I'll ask him for a 'therapy spanking.' These are definitely hard and are meant to make me cry, because the flowing tears seem to wash away all the guilt and tension and the general 'fuzz' in my brain. This may only happen once a year if that.

I think that when you have been together long enough, you will get tuned into each other and there won't be a problem, but it means talking to each other and experimenting. It took us about a year and a half.