Crying

[Gary D.]

Originally Posted by Veronica Daniels

Mich-

There are plenty of photos and video on our new site of me crying! In fact, I would say there are more of me crying than not!

We are thinking about a DVD of just spankings with tears...what do you think?

Best-
Veronica

I'd love to see it!!

Gary D.

[RG_]

Originally Posted by Veronica Daniels

We are thinking about a DVD of just spankings with tears...what do you think?

Why, I think it would bring tears to my ey....oh, wait!....that's what YOUR supposed to do!


Perhaps you could name it "Tears Are Falling." (with apologies to KISS)

The sequel, the DVD with dry eyes, could be named "No More Tears." (with apologies to Ozzy Osbourne)

[garyspk]

Originally Posted by Veronica Daniels

Mich-

There are plenty of photos and video on our new site of me crying! In fact, I would say there are more of me crying than not!

We are thinking about a DVD of just spankings with tears...what do you think?

Best-
Veronica

Veronica actually does do a great job of this in a couple of her videos that I've seen. And yes, I think it'd be a great idea to do a DVD of just spankings with tears.

But in my experience over the past few years, it's very difficult to pull off a believable spanking scene with crying. Either the model has it in her or she does not. That's not really something that can be faked at all on-camera. It can look really bad.

But if you've got a model who can pull it off...realistically...then you've really got something. We've been fortunate through the years to have one here or there, but it's not easy to do.

[Veronica Daniels]

I tend to cry a bit when spanked. Many people have asked me how I do it and why I do it. Crying during a spanking is hard for me to really put into words. I definitely cry because of the pain. Dr. D's hand spankings are worse than anyone can imagine, and when he wields the paddle, OMG!

The combination of pain and being verbally disciplined for something I did that disappointed him is the combo that brings the tears on for me. Knowing I let him down or disappointed him brings on the tears, and the pain of the implement just pushes it over the edge.

I don't like crying during a spanking, however it is just something that happens and it is often a really good release. I do not like it when I am told that I am going to be made to cry, then I get defiant and try really hard not to and then very often don't because of that. Then the spanking is less effective because I was focusing on not crying instead of the spanking.
And, it is a lot less enjoyable for me as well.

I do like to be comforted after a spanking when I have been crying. That always feesl very nice!

Best-
Veronica Daniels

[spanked~amber]

Originally Posted by Veronica Daniels

I tend to cry a bit when spanked. Many people have asked me how I do it and why I do it...

The combination of pain and being verbally disciplined for something I did that disappointed him is the combo that brings the tears on for me. Knowing I let him down or disappointed him brings on the tears, and the pain of the implement just pushes it over the edge...

Best-
Veronica Daniels

Ditto and well said Veronica.

[nightowl]

For me, it depends on the reason I'm being spanked......obviously most times I'm not getting spanked for being a bad girl <smile> so I don't usually cry. However,I do cryif I am being disciplined/punished, or unusally stressed and have requested a "spanking to tears" ......very rarely do I REALLY cry (sob). Crying makes me feel cleansed/forgiven and is a hugh emotional release for me when I'm stressed.

rying also puts me in a vulnerable place.......so that is another reason why I don't usually cry during most spanking. Only those whom I trust enough to discipline me, "destress" me would ever have access to that vulnerability to begin with..

[iggy]

I have absolutely zero desire to cry during a spanking (and I just hope that I don't when it happens). Crying makes my face go all blotchy, my eyes swell up, I get all congested so I can't breathe, and I get a headache. That is not my idea of a cleansing feeling at all! No thanks! Boo on crying!

I'm another that doesn't have a desire for discipline. For a long time I kept thinking that I was wrong and just didn't understand what I really wanted and tried to talk myself into the discipline thing because everyone I encountered seemed to think that discipline was the only way to go or that was the only way to be a "true" spanko or that only discipline spankings were "real" spankings. I even ventured down the path in trying to find an online Top and found that when I had people trying to top me that I really resented it. Who were they to be telling me what I could or could not do? It didn't help matters that mainly they were doing it for purposes to suit their interests and what was good for me or my feelings didn't really seem to matter. I've definitely been soured on the whole discipline side of spanking, but for the most part it doesn't appeal to me anyhow.

When I think of spanking I think of it as something fun and sexy and a happy thing. I like the playful banter and stuff.

I do find that online, people just tend to assume that you want/need discipline and it does get tedious, especially when people look at you like you are some sort of alien when you say you don't want a discipline spanking and have no desire for one.

Now there are definitely parts of the discipline side of things that have great appeal to me like the caring and nurturing and someone noticing you and actually caring about what is going on in your life side of things. And, of course, I do tend to find that dominant personality rather sexy. So, of course that just leads me in circles.

Who the heck knows what I ultimately want?

But...I still don't want to cry and for now (and maybe forever) I just want spanking to be something fun and sexy and flirty and not have dark scary disciplinary connotations. I like that the thought of spanking makes me smile and not cringe.

[Adelina]

Me too, iggy. And I know that feeling of someone telling you you're not a real spanko without discipline. I just wanted to have a great time, not worry about trying to let someone feel important by "helping" me, which just makes me want to kick them in the... knees.

[garyspk]

Originally Posted by Adelina

Me too, iggy. And I know that feeling of someone telling you you're not a real spanko without discipline. I just wanted to have a great time, not worry about trying to let someone feel important by "helping" me, which just makes me want to kick them in the... knees.

I'm probably gonna get some grief about this, but as a male spanko for most of my life AND the operator of a spanking video production company, there is nothing that creeps me out more than a male "top" telling a female about how much discipline she needs...or "helping" her with her issues, etc.

I'm all for role play and that type of thing, but there's a real fine line and it's hard to define. But I know it when I see it or hear it.

That's just my opinion. Others are free to act out as they see fit. I'm not judging, but my personal taste does not run that direction.

As Wally once said to The Beav, "It just kinda creeps me out."

[RG_]

iggy,

The SSC will be a great spanking "Debutante Ball" for you. Can't wait to meet you there!

(And based on your post, we hope it won't be a "Debutante Bawl." )