[Jess]

Hello,

My name is Jess and I am married to Steve. We have been spanking for about 2 years and the erotic fun side is great. However we both want to use spanking for punishment and that is not going so well. We want our household to be DD but I am not naturally submissive to him nor is he naturally dominant towards me. But this is something we are willing to work hard to achieve.

We have experimented on and off with DD for the 2 years we have been spanking so far though not very successfully as punishments spankings don't leave particularly sorry for very long, I think this is because they feel no different to fun erotic spanking.

I think we need to make a defined difference between fun and discipline spanking.

Some thoughts are

1. Different room
2. Less spanks but with more intensity (hard enough to really hurt but not cause damage)
3. Slowly given so that I can feel each - a pause between each to let it sink in
4. Made to count or say thank you for each stroke (though this might feel silly)
5. Corner time before or after
6. Different position ( something I don't like but can stay put in)
7. Being told off (we have tried this once but I kept laughing)
8. No sex at least not till much later
9. Steve to stay fully dressed
10. Maintenance spankings at the beginning of the week even if I have to have punishment or have just received one

Well these are just a few thoughts I would love to hear from any one who uses any of these things and how it works for them or if you have tried any that did not work.

Also anyone with any other suggestions i would love to hear from too.

I would really like DD to work in our home but I am not naturally submissive to Steve so I know it will be hard, but I am willing to work hard to get there.

I hope I have explained myself properly, I know what I mean but I'm not sure it comes across.

Sorry for such a long post

Hugs

Jess