I have been back and forth to this post quite a bit and do find it extremely interesting.


It is part of innate human nature to want to ‘fit in’ or be a part of something and indeed to know exactly where we do fit in.

We all at some point, usually during our teenage years, experience that awkwardness and sometimes the rebellion that is caused by not knowing where we fit in, or where we feel like we belong.

What fascinates me about this post, is that, we are all here, as people who have expressed an interest in spanking, not necessarily, that we are all fetishists, but that we share an interest. We have all come to a level of comfort within ourselves regarding our interest, despite society’s views on the matter.
We spend so many years trying to fit in, and finally we have reached a point within ourselves where we are comfortable enough to break away a bit from that ‘norm’ and explore our interest, with other people who share that interest…..and what do we do?........of course, we look for ways to fit in there too.

As human beings, we want to be accepted and know that there is nothing wrong with us because we have a non-vanilla interest.
It is perfectly normal to want to explore where spanking fits in, but to be honest, I’m not convinced that the answer to that question would be the same for any two people on this forum, or indeed within the whole world of spanking communities.
There may well be aspects and different levels of BDSM involved in different people’s perspectives of spanking and I would agree that there is a certain amount of acceptance and submission where spanking is concerned, and where there is submission, there must be dominance to facilitate that submission.
Its kinda like trying to determine where one blade of grass fits into a whole lawn.
No two blades of grass are the same, but each one fits into the lawn, which is the bigger picture.

perhaps it is because we are all different, that we do fit in!

take care,

Ami.xx.