Forum Update
 

There are 2 things I'd like to address.

1) We started our little forum/community in the fall of 2006. I'm pretty proud of the fact that as moderator, I haven't had to "ban" anyone from here. But enough is enough. We've told dandy40don that he cannot log back in for 3 months...beginning today. I've given him a lot of warnings and he doesn't seem capable of comprehending the problem. So that's it. He's gone for 3 months. And if he comes back in 3 months and the complaints start again, he's gone for good. I don't really think this is a problem with any other member. But if someone asks you to politely stop bothering him or her, please do so.

2) I deleted a thread that kept popping up after I've posted 3 different times now that the thread is a year old. Much like I really don't like having to "warn" or "ban" members, I don't enjoy deleting threads either. And this is one of the few times I've done it. The person who started that thread over a year ago is no longer active and is laying low for a good reason. So as her friend, I've pulled that thread to avoid any further confusion.

I really hate doing stuff like BOTH of these items above. Maybe it was me-about-dying after my stress test yesterday (LOL). But I'd just had enough. Enough is enough on both subjects.

Let's move on and continue to have fun. I can't believe we have over 5200 members now. And to only have 1 or 2 problems? That's pretty good if you ask me.

Thanks to everyone for their support of this site.

Your friendly moderator,
Gary

You did good, gary. I know you hated doing those things, but being moderator means making the tough decisions. We commend you for doing the right thing.

I have moderated other sites in the past and sometimes you just have to come down on people from a great height for the sake of the forum from time to time.

If someone continues to cause a problem after you have repeatedly asked them to stop you have to take action.

Well done.

Gary,

It is downright amazing that with a forum this size, and this active, that you've only had to do this twice or so. It is a testament to your patience and genuine leadership. (And to the quality of the membership in general.)

There are those groups where the overly-controlling moderators keep their thumb on the members, squelching any real, honest dialogue. Thanks for treating your members like adults. THAT'S leadership, and it is at least one reason you have to do this so rarely.

Well done, Friend!

Paul (Tubaman)

With most software, if you want people to stop posting on a thread without having to delete it, there is an option to simply take away the reply box. This preserves the thread as part of the archives, yet does not allow for current reviving. Are you not able to do that? :)

And that dandy guy -- he had bugged me too at one point, but left me alone when I simply ignored him after he tried a few times.

sarah

Good job Gary
 

I too solved my own dandydon problem by ignoring him BUT since I have yet to meet a woman on this forum who DIDN'T have a problem with him it was a bigger problem then just ignoring. And honestly why should I or anyone else have to explain to new people how to ignore some one EVERY TIME that person is around... and since the vetrans aren't around all the time newbies get bothered and don't come back.

So YES if some one's bothering you absolutely ignore them but this went beyind bothering and it was literally EVERYONE or at least every female.... but I think Achilles got hit on once or twice:)

Yes but that is because Achilles is such a nice Lady

http://www.v-rodforums.com/forums/im...lies/rofl3.gif

I actually help moderate a Warez forum it seems pretty similar to this program that you're running and there is an option to "Lock" a thread so that it can be viewed but no more posts can be made.

I think you're doing great work Gary. We've got yer back :)

emily

One more amen
 

From one of the new folks on dandydon's recent contacts list, thanks. I did know to ignore him, but it's very gratifying to find a moderator who looks after us.

And, as has been said, what a great group to have so few problems in all this time!

Great job GaryS. :)

http://www.smiliegenerator.de/s31/smilies-21813.png Our moderator is so patient & tolerant. That is why I get spanked so little. http://img117.exs.cx/img117/9585/q9crolleyes.gif Really though, numerous warnings to behave is fair. This will probably be the only time you hear that from me...so listen up folks.http://e.deviantart.com/emoticons/p/poke.gif

Member ban
 

Thank you Gary [bows humbly low to the Admin}
That Dandy fella tried to "heckle and Jekyl" me the other night as well. i simply signed off for the evening. I had no idea that he was a persistant sort after anything in a skirt.
And my fellow LADIES, as you may well know, bending over a guys lap is an excercise in TRUST that no detrimental harm will be done. BE CAREFUL if you venture to some guys haus for a session!!! get to know them WELL first and meet in a public place FIRST before you take your buisness to a private place.
I know I probably didn't have to say that, but SAFE is much better than SORRY

Thanks gary
Being a husband of a member who has been bothered by don I appreciate that you take care of the girls here on your forum. Being warned continually is too much to warrent his continued membership if you ask me. But if he comes back and treats my wife and the other ladies like they were ment to be treated I have no problem with him as I really dont beiieve in censorship. Some storys, pictures and even chat conversations have offended people on this site but warnings have taken care of most of them Im sure. Most people are reasonable when not put on the defensive.
Gasmith

Haven't had any personal experience with this person, but I do remember some responses he made to someone else who posted a comment on a story I wrote. Came across as one who thought every woman wanted him to spank her.
That is as offensive as those guys who think every woman wants to have sex with them. They are an embarrassment to the rest of us guys.
I have a lesbian sister and have met many of her friends. We get along fine, because I know that they are not prospective partners,and they know I will never come on to them . Yes, there are some guys with such inflated egos that they think they can "convert" any lesbian.

Thanks Gary
 

5200 members and only 2 problem children tells me that I was correct in my assessment: this forum has about the nicest folks that you would ever want to meet. And by the way, that has been my experience in the spanking community at large...just fine folks for the most part.

Best to all

rb

Adding my thanks to the pool, Gary -- Not-So-DandyDon was one of the pushiest people I've ever seen on a forum, and I've seen a lot of pushy people. If people can't follow simple instructions and etiquette, they don't deserve the privilege of being on your forum. You did the right thing. -- Erica

Erica, gasmith, naughtyone and anyone else,

DandyDon was banned for 90 days as a warning to behave properly. His 90 days are up and I know he's been hanging around some. As long as he is respectful and cordial, I have no issues. If this has NOT been the case please let me know.

Over and out...

I want a gal pal
 

Hey to everyone I am new to this and I would like to meet a gal pal that is willing to let a well educated 45 yo white college male swat her bare backside .I am new to this and would like to get me some skills,as well as,learn the proper etiquette.If you are that lady or no a lady that would like to be someone to me then by alll means email me .I am Absoluletlyloud on thei sforum ,or my email is Jino09@sbcglobal.net