Sadists give Mentors & Disciplinarians a bad rap. When it's all about them, all about self-gratification...with no limits or concerns for the intended. I do Spank & I also Paddle. Cane & Bathbrush when necessary. A decent hand-spanking can be effective & get the message thru, however, a paddle, cane or bathbrush :eek: will leave a much longer-lasting impression. ;)

My last sub, she's since found a partner and we no longer meet but she always wanted the cane through a thin towel on her birthday. She would hug two pillows and bury her face in them, she never cried, don't know how she could handle 36 really hard strokes on the last one but afterwards she couldn't thank me enough.

I agree that the hand is usually all that is necessary. I say that, having experienced spankings for two purposes. It was punishment for me as a kid, and while I might have disagreed at the time, in looking back I don't consider it abuse, even though switches and various kitchen implements were used on me. In my teens it morphed into erotic foreplay...and that has resulted in my credo today being "the most intimate position is across a male lap, and the most intimate implement is the male hand!"

You may have your artificial implements if you want pure punishment, but I don't, and what I want now is intimacy, which for a female definitely means the male hand...

Its impossible for any act to qualify as abuse if done with consent. That being said, merely being touched by someone without consent constitutes an assault. It has nothing to do with severity.