How Spanking Affected You
 

For those of you who were spanked, or otherwise received CP in some fashion, while growing up, do you think that it shaped or affected any aspect of your spanking interest today, in any way? If so, share your thoughts with us on how you think that was.

And for those who weren't spanked, if you think that had some effect, please elaborate for us.

i was spanked growing up. Not as often as i shoulda been my parents always tell me lol.. But i honestly cant say that it sparked my interest in spanking. ive always had a submissive nature and had a kink for it. i can tell you tho the first time i knew that there was something about spanking that sparked my interest was when i was in kinergarten. Okay i'll explain.

In kindergarten another studen (a boy) and i were taken to the office during recess because we both had graffiti'd our chairs w/ artwork an signed our names to it. Anyways i remember standing in the lobby area of the office while our teacher took the boy student in before me. i had this warm tingly feeling all over me an couldnt stop grinning. im sure the office staff musta thought i was loony or something. Or maybe it was just the brat in me getting a good laugh at the expense of tha poor little boy that got spanked before me. Anyways after he came out he had tears trickling down his face. i felt a little sorry for him for just a moment but as he passed an went out the door back to the classroom it quickly faded an i had the grin on my face again. i almost didnt hear the teacher telling me it was my turn i was off in my own world thinking about how fun it woulda been to see the other student getting spanked. Anywho, i dunno if my teacher was just a weak spanker or felt sorry for me but the 3 swats i recieved didnt hurt enough to make me cry.. The sensations from the swats just kinda mixed w/ the already warm tingly feeling i had already hehe!! or maybe that boy was justa wuss.. :p

I think the fact that I got spanked as a kid helped "feed" my interest in it now, and even my desire to sometimes get a good spanking when I feel like I need one, especially when my bratty side gets the best of me lol!

I hope my childhood spankings did not contribute to my interest in adulthood. I have nothing but sick feelings when I remember them....so I try not to remember them. On the other hand, I do remember being very interested in fellow troublemakers' spankings during my childhood!

I think the few spankings i got growing up did contribute somewhat...almost like the opening tease leaving me searching for more.

I was never actually spanked at home, but got my fair share of the paddle in 8th grade. The first time it happened i was shocked and the feeling lasted forever it seemed. Of course i became a bit of a junkie and began to push buttons just to hear the phrase "out in the hall young lady"...imagine that. That was the last time i was spanked though until about 2 years ago...thankfully i hope to never go that long without again.

Sherie

I have never been spanked in my entire life. And I've have never had any desire to be. All of my fascination with this fetish has revolved around girls/women being spanked. I have always had a strong appreciation for the female buttocks and suspect my interest in spanking was borne out of that to some degree.

Having developed this interest very early in life, I didn't understand it for a long time. I felt weird, guilty and somewhat dirty about this for the longest time. I was probably in my early 20s before I ever suspected there might be other people who shared this fantasy, and even then, I thought it was a very small percentage. It was many years later before I realized that it was quite a higher number of people who were into spanking and began to feel less weird about the whole thing.

I think that by feeling like that for so long has helped make me more tolerable and less judgmental of alternate lifestyles, etc. that I might not have been so willing to accept otherwise.

J7's post points out an opinion of mine, and that is that most of us are "hardwired" to be kinked with spanking, in some way. J7 is on one end of the spectrum, those that were never spanked. There are plenty just like him living down there on that end. On the other end are folks who also weren't spanked. They were abused. Mistreated. Emotionally harmed. Yet, for reasons unknown, they too like spanking. There are those who were raised by loving, constructive great parents. They, too, like it. And the list goes on.

In my own opinion, while I think that our experiences can shape what direction our kink takes, I think that for 98% plus of us, the kink was gonna there there in any case.

My interest in spanking developed from having a great interest in the female bottom as well. So I'm with J7 on this.

And I also agree with RG that we are hard-wired and there's not much we can do about that. It certainly wasn't a "choice" for me to have this kink.

Although I do know some people who have experimented and found they like it. So that's certainly possible. But overall, yep....it's hard-wired in.

Well said RG. I absolutlely hated discipline when I was a child. Yet when someone was taken out in the hall for a paddling, I was all ears and would paint a mental image in my mind of what was taking place. Tone plays a huge part of what floats my boat during a spanking. In my adult life there is no worry of my spanker yelling or being obnoxious. That's a plus.

Yep, the school thing did me in, too, Amber. When one happened and another kid was getting it not only did it capture my whole attention (I even stayed in at recess once to watch a kid get it), but it stayed on my mind the rest of the day.

As I noted in my previous post on this thread, I think that while the kink is inborn for the great majority, that it can be shaped by experiences. I have no doubt whatsoever that my going to a school that prolificly used the paddle set the direction for where my kink was focused.

Ditto here. No matter how noisy it was in that classroom, when a kid was taken outside for a paddling, every other kid in the room just got quiet and listened for the swats. It told me I wasn't alone, that there were others like me.

When I was in 4th grade I recall one paddling that happened at recess. I saw a gathering around the 3rd grade room door and asked what was going on, and was told that the principal was going to paddle a boy, and had gone to get a paddle. Sure enough, in another minute or so he reappeared and proceeded into the room. The crowd of kids silently but quickly parted as the came through and by, and then immediately closed back in, covering up the doorway (but not breaking the barrier). The principal made this boy bend over the top of one of the student desks at the front of row, and gave him a few licks. Since I was a late arriver, I couldn't actually see very well because of all of those in front of me.

Always an interesting topic! I was never spanked as a child, except one time when my mother smacked my leg one time. I also remember her smacking my brother's leg three times. And she threatened me several of times, once with a hairbrush, once with a switch, once "in front of everyone." But she didn't believe in it and neither did my father.

Once I got in trouble in highschool. I always wonder if I avoided the paddle b/c my parents told them not to spank me. I wondered if my dad would finally take his belt to me, but of course he didn't.

I have been obsessed with spanking since my earliest memories at age 3. My interests are almost identical to those of a friend of mine who was severely spanked at home. I tend to think it's hardwired somehow.

I also want to mention that I turned out "just fine." I'm hard-working, thoughtful, self-disciplined, responsible, successful, etc.

I know this is an old thread, but i have been reading the archives. And no thread is dead if you have a new member! :-)
I have always wondered if I got turned on to spanking when I was 15 and spanked by my dad. This had not happened for a very long time (getting spanked). And I recall that it was somehow different, and though I didn't like it at the time, I was somehow turned on by it. It might have been my age, I don't know. I was also turned on afterwards, which I didn't recall before. So in my case, I don't think I was hard wired in some way.

--liz

ohh yes! i know all about school spankings, the sound of paddles and butts coming together the fear of just looking at that big wooden paddle know what it could do to our tender butts.